A Black luxury masquerade night of kink, connection and play..kink activations, 2 floors, themed rooms, jacuzzi, BYOB, free food.Vetted Only
The Nut Gala
A Nut Navy Masquerade Experience
March 7 | 6:30 PM – 4:00 AM
Welcome to The Nut Gala, where high-fashion masquerade meets elevated kink. Inspired by the grandeur and artistry of the Met Gala, this is a night designed to feel sexy, mysterious, and unapologetically indulgent—crafted for those who appreciate style, sensuality, and intentional play.
Kinks & Drinks: The Prelude
6:30 PM – 9:30 PM
The evening begins with Kinks & Drinks, an immersive, social pre-mixer created to warm the room and set the tone.
5 experienced Domme Tops hosting curated kink activations
Guided, consensual experiences open to curious newcomers and seasoned players alike
A relaxed, social atmosphere to mingle, sip, and explore at your own pace
This portion is designed to educate, excite, and connect—no pressure, just possibility.
The Nut Gala: Main Party
9:30 PM – 4:00 AM
As the night deepens, the gala transforms into a full-scale play party experience.
Two floors of beautifully curated energy
Several themed rooms for exploration and play
Jacuzzi access
BYOB
Free food available all night
Expect a crowd that understands discretion, consent, and the art of indulgence.
Dress Code & Vibe
Masquerade | Dressy yet artistic
Think mature, sleek, and suggestive—not traditional suits and gowns, but expressive fashion that feels intentional and elevated.
Masks are encouraged but not required.
Important Info
Vetted guests only – approval required to attend
Early Bird tickets available until February 1
A private play-party Discord will be shared after ticket purchase so guests can connect and build rapport in the weeks leading up to the event
This is a space for respect, curiosity, and community—come ready to contribute to the energy.
✨ The Nut Gala is not just a party.
It’s a statement. A mood. A night where elegance and edge exist in perfect balance.
Secure your ticket. Complete your vetting.
We’ll see you behind the mask. 🖤
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A Sports-Themed Kink & Lifestyle Experience
Get in the game and bring your sexiest sports-inspired look—basketball, baseball, volleyball, whatever gets you moving. Game Day is a two-part lifestyle event built for bold, curious, and consent-driven fun.
6:30–9:30 PM | Kinks & Drinks
Ease into the night with a sexy mixer featuring drinks, vibes, and BDSM activations to break the ice and spark connection.
9:30 PM–4:00 AM | Game Day Main Event
Two floors. A jacuzzi. Themed playrooms. BDSM furniture. BYOB. Bring your kink, your energy, and your A-game.
Everyone must be vetted.
Already vetted? You’re good. Just email us at HardorSoftevents@gmail.com and ask for the link. We will confirm your status and send it to you once approved!
New or bringing someone new? Head here:
thehardorsoftshow.com/vetting-form
Ticket Options:
• Kinks & Drinks Only
• Game Day (Full Access)
Location shared after approval.
Respect. Consent. Fire vibes. Let’s play.
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